Category: Life Skills
Created on Saturday, 29 September 2012 00:00
Written by Jasmine Choo
Worrying can cause you sleepless nights, make you all jittery and unhappy, and even result in behaviours that would have people shunning you. But no matter how much you worry, your problem will not be solved. We take a look at three worrying ways and how to stop them today.
1. Thinking Over, and over again... and again!
Mulling over the same issue repeatedly and relentlessly pondering over the question of "why?" would not help solve problems. Unfortunately, even extensive worrying on our own side will not help us make sense of the matter.
So, write down whatever issues you are worrying about at hand and decide once and for all: can I do something about it? If so, can I solve it immediately? If not, write a physical note to remind yourself. Once it's done, give a satisfactory strike across the item. Do not throw away this note – it may be the way you make peace with whatever is the issue. 2. Seeking Constant Reassurance
In making certain life decisions, no matter how big or small, some of us have the tendency to seek the opinions of our friends, family and especially our spouses. This may stem from insecurity of the decision made, or simply the need for approval. But asking people repeatedly will only cause annoyance rather than have you convinced.
Stop! Ask yourself why aren't you convinced? What are your fears? What's holding you back from believing in the decision you have made? Eliminate these issues by research or asking just one friend – who has the expertise – for his or her opinion. After doing so, accept that you have done all you could and leave what you can't control; move on. 3. Misleading Information
Maybe you are going to attempt an extreme sport like skydiving. You have your fears and they may or may not be unreasonable. However, the worrywart in you will have you google "skydiving accidents" or even "death by skydiving". Sure, these incidents may be authentic and real. But it is biased; would you be googling "skydiving accidents are rare" or "skydiving is absolutely safe"? By searching the world wide web for accidents, you are guaranteed to find some, confirming your fears.
Question yourself, am I collecting objective information or am I simply searching for sources to confirm the dangers? Weigh the value of your research carefully and balance them out instead of panicking unnecessarily. You might also like: Dealing with Anxiety
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